Is It Normal To Not Have Sex?

We speak with many individuals who are worried that not having sex or not wanting to have sex is somehow ‘abnormal’. The media have created this idealized picture of sex that is not actually natural or true for many people. The idea that you must have sex three times a week and orgasm every time in order to be ‘normal’ or ‘healthy’ has been perpetuated by companies trying to sell more magazines or make you read their blog posts.

The reality is that it’s completely normal for an individual to not have sex for any period of time. Phew!

Sexual activity is a personal choice, and everyone’s level of interest in sex can vary throughout the day, week, month or even lifetime. Some people may choose to be celibate or abstain from sexual activity for a variety of reasons, such as religious or moral beliefs, trauma, personal preference, or lack of access to a consensual partner.

It’s important to remember that there is no ‘normal’ when it comes to sexual behavior, and everyone’s preferences are different and valid. What’s important is that you make choices that feel right for you and that you feel good about yourself and your choices.

But it can be difficult to decipher between your own, personal preference and a core belief that’s been handed to you by society or peer pressure.

If you want to explore your sexual awareness, desire, needs and preferences, it can be helpful to talk to a qualified mental health therapist who specializes in sexual health. Reach out to Willamette Wellness Center today to learn more.

Be Well,